All the 90's kids, put your hands up if you have shared in your social media or social gathering about you have been 'adulting' - because you have started paying bills, living on your own, paying for your own education etc.
The definition of adulting as described by whatis.com is " Adulting is the assumption of tasks, responsibilities and behaviors traditionally associated with normal grown-up life, along with the implication that the individual in question does not particularly identify as an adult and that acting as one does not come naturally".
Now that you read the definition, do you think you have 'adulted' enough? I'd be the first to nod in denial! Truth be told, the definition of the term 'adulting' differs across various culture. In this context, I refer culture to a set of beliefs practiced by social groups, not just ethnic or racial groups.
I first thought I was 'adulting' at the age of 14, when I had my first crush - I still laugh thinking about it. Then when I pursue my higher studies- which also means no more school uniforms- I thought I 'adulted'. And later on, when I started using make up, I thought to myself, okay I am really 'adulting' now. Then reality hit me - or at least that's what I thought - when I furthered my studies in a foreign land, without my family. I had to be responsible for myself - it may sound weird to you, but not to Asian communities I guess! Some days were tougher that other and it would feel like my world is crashing down and all I need is -mummy. I started to ask myself "How could I have 'adulted' if I still need mum at the age of 26".
On the other hand I am greeted with wedding post, baby shower, engage etc of my peers. Did they adult before me? Through conversations with my peers, I learnt that each of us had a different perspective to 'adulting'. And that's okay.
What about you? How did you 'adult'? Did you experience similar thoughts? I'd love to hear from you!
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