Are you a victim of insecurities?
Do you blame yourself for things that happen around you or to you?
FRET NOT! You aren’t alone.
I believe most of us have a form of insecurity, which we do not often talk about. And it is OK to not want to talk about it, BUT, do you have a safe place to express how you are feeling? When I say safe place, it does not have to be a person. It could be a journal, a plush toy or even your favorite wall. It could be anything you are comfortable with, because that’s what matters most.
Let’s start off with one insecurity, for instance, lack of confidence, perhaps due to social anxiety? Did I get you there? Do you take a look at the mirror, in your best outfit and go ‘I look fabulous!’, but as you walk out of your comfort zone, down the streets, you feel the world has dim, and there is just a spotlight shining at you? Does it feel like everyone is staring in your direction?
Trust me on this, you really aren’t alone. There are many ways to fight this insecurity. Before you reach this post, some of you may have already tried googling ways to fight insecurities. Get to the point Jes! Going back to the safe place that we spoke about earlier. As you sit down, and allow your feet to feel the earth, and allow your hands to feel the breeze, take a deep breath (Don’t forget to exhale!). Think about one quality that makes you a FUN person. Now, how did you come up with that quality? Did you decide on this quality, or were you told that this quality makes you a fun person? Close your eyes as you picture yourself with this quality. Do you feel the positive energy emerging out? That’s your key to fighting the lack of confidence.
On the other hand, do you blame yourself for relationships troubles? Again, you aren’t the only one. However, this isn’t healthy for you, and your relationship. You may think that blaming yourself is going to save the relationship. Blaming yourself isn’t the same as forgiving. We probably have seen quotes such as” Relationships gets stronger when both are willing to understand mistakes and forgive each other” or “Forgiveness is the best form of love”. These are quotes are true to a great extent, in my opinion. However, often we mistake forgiveness to be taking on the blame, which therefore results in insecurities. Because you are blaming yourself for a relationship to fail, you start thinking you are incompetent. Remember, what defines you isn’t how you are in a relationship, but it’s who you are as an individual, and how you take on the challenges that is thrown.
Guess what, if you are here, reading, and looking for a solution, you have STARTED. So now, complete the journey to fight the various insecurities in your safe space.